We surveyed 1,058 women to answer the question:
Do women like receiving oral sex?
As part of our research, we also investigated 13 other factors related to receiving cunnilingus to understand what leads to a satisfying experience for the receiver of oral and what should be avoided to prevent a lacklustre time (positions, techniques, duration, etc).
In this post, I’m going to share what we discovered.
Here is a summary of our key findings:
1. 90.9% of women enjoy receiving oral sex.
2. However, 79.4% of women have had at least one unenjoyable experience when receiving oral sex.
3. “Bad technique” was selected by 55.9% of women as the leading cause of unsatisfying oral sex.
4. The main reason women enjoy receiving oral is due to how their partner makes them feel emotionally (24%).
5. 51.8% of women had an orgasm during their most recent experience receiving oral sex. When asked, “Have you ever orgasmed during any time receiving oral sex?”, 78.1% of women indicated that they had.
6. 14% of women squirted (female ejaculation) during their most recent experience receiving oral sex. 31.1% of women had ever squirted when receiving cunnilingus.
7. The vast majority (67.3%) of women selected “Lying on my back” as their favorite position to receive oral sex.
8. The 69 position (26.4%) was selected as the least enjoyable position for receiving oral sex by our respondents, closely followed by standing while receiving (25.9%).
9. 8.4% of women prefer receiving oral sex to vaginal sex.
10. 19 minutes and 40 seconds is the average ideal duration women want to receive oral sex for.
11. 92% of women enjoy when their partner uses their fingers on/in their vagina when receiving oral sex.
12. 10.7% of women prefer their partner to have a beard when they receive oral sex. 52.3% indicated that their partner’s facial hair type doesn’t matter.
13. 48.6% of women enjoy receiving anilingus (oral sex in/on/around the anus).
14. 10.3% of women like to receive oral sex during their period.
We have detailed data and information of our findings below.
90.9% of women enjoy receiving oral sex
We started our investigation with a simple yes/no question:
Do you enjoy receiving oral sex?
This figure paints an incredibly clear picture of women’s attitudes towards oral sex and receiving pleasure, 9 out of every 10 women enjoy having a partner that goes down on them. Just 9% do not enjoy receiving oral sex, roughly 1 in 10.
However, this landslide result does come with an important caveat…
79.4% of women have had at least one unenjoyable experience receiving oral sex
While the vast majority of women enjoy receiving oral sex, we wanted to dig in deeper and understand how many women have had negative or unenjoyable experiences when receiving oral sex.
A whopping 79.4% of respondents answered that they had a previous oral sex experience that was unsatisfying or unenjoyable.
Key takeaway: There is a very real possibility that you can give your partner a bad or negative oral sex experience, even if your partner usually likes you giving head to them.
And there are many reasons that lead to a negative experience for the receiving partner, that we explain in the next section.
Side note: This result mirrors the results in our study on whether women enjoy giving blow jobs or not: The majority (92.6%) of women do enjoy giving oral sex to men. But just like this study over three-quarters (76.8%) of women have given a blow job in the past that they did not enjoy.
The most common reason for unenjoyable oral sex: bad technique
Understanding what leads to unsatisfying and unenjoyable oral sex for women is important. This way, you know what to avoid doing when going down on your partner and can instead focus on what brings her the most pleasure.
In this multiple-choice question, bad technique was chosen by 55.9% of women as the reason for their lack of enjoyment during oral sex. This was the most cited reason.
Closely following this was not reaching orgasm (47.7%) and feeling uncomfortable/being unable to relax (47.7%) during oral sex
The experience ending too quickly (17.1%) or lasting too long (14.5%) weren’t as frequently chosen as reasons for an unsatisfying experience. Neither was a lack of attraction to the giving partner, with only 12.5% of women indicating that a lack of attraction leads to unsatisfactory oral sex.
6.5% of women noted that they had been forced or pressured into being eaten out, which one can naturally assume results in a terrible experience.
5.83% of women selected an “other” reason and provided their own answers, many of which proved eye-opening:
- He didn’t know what TF he was doing and it felt like what one would imagine is an alien probe.
- I told him gently how to (do it), but that apparently went over his head…
- Too much slobber.
- They spit on my vagina and told me there was something wrong with me.
- My partner treated my vagina like it was a construction site.
- He thought he was a weed eater and was too rough, wasn’t enjoyable at all
- They were overly excited as in growling.
The main reason for enjoyment: How my partner made me feel emotionally/mentally
Along with investigating the things that lead to bad oral sex for women, we also wanted to learn the things that make it an enjoyable experience.
For this question, we took a slightly different angle from the previous one. We asked respondents to choose a single answer, the most important factor leading to an enjoyable oral sex experience.
The main reason for enjoyment is how the giver makes the receiver feel mentally/emotionally (24%).
This was followed closely by “I had an orgasm” (21.5%) and the oral sex techniques used (19.8%). Interestingly, an enthusiastic partner is more popular than an attractive partner (16.6% v 12.8%) for good oral sex. One respondent even explicitly mentioned the importance of enthusiasm, “My partner enjoys giving it and that helps me enjoy it.”
From this feedback, we can see climaxing and good technique are certainly important for good oral sex. However, they are not as important as the emotional feelings that the giving partner provides their receiving partner.
51.8% of women had an orgasm during their last experience receiving oral sex
Our survey asked whether or not respondents had reached orgasm during their last oral sex session. Over half reported that they experienced an orgasm (51.8%).
We then followed up with a similar question:
Have you ever had an orgasm during any previous experience receiving oral sex?
78.1% answered yes, they had orgasmed at least once previously during oral sex.
This is a powerful finding as many women in heterosexual relationships struggle to orgasm during vaginal intercourse while their male partners rarely experience this issue (a phenomenon called the orgasm gap).
This would imply that if you are a female reader, currently struggling to reach orgasm during vaginal intercourse, then you may have more luck with cunnilingus. This finding is backed up by further research. Cole – My recollection tells me that there are studies indicating that oral sex is more likely to lead to an orgasm compared to penis-in-vagina sex for heterosexual women. Can you find a study that indicates this and add it as a reference?
1 in 7 women experienced female ejaculation during their most recent experience receiving oral sex
Female ejaculation or squirting is a popular and hotly debated topic online, so we decided to include two questions on the subject in our survey.
When recollecting their most recent encounter getting head, 14% of women reported that they had experienced female ejaculation. We then followed up with this question:
Have you ever squirted (female ejaculation) during any session when receiving oral sex?
31.1% reported that they had squirted at least once in a past session when receiving oral sex.
These results seem to indicate that if you are interested in female ejaculation as a woman or helping a female partner experience female ejaculation, then cunnilingus can help make it happen.
Lying on their back is women’s favorite position for receiving oral sex
There are multiple positions in which a female partner can enjoy cunnilingus. We wanted to investigate whether or not there was a preferred position.
While the results were conclusive with 67.3% of women choosing lying down on their back as their favorite position to receive oral sex, the second favorite cunnilingus position was something unexpected…
10.7% of respondents chose sitting on their partner’s face as their preferred position for receiving oral sex.
Some interesting responses from those who chose “Other” as their preferred position:
- Any position where I feel like my vagina is not a spectacle.
- At the top of the stairs on my back with my legs raised and feet resting on the handrails.
- All of the above.
- It’s a tie between sitting on his face and laying down.
- Laying down on my back with a pillow under my bottom and knees to my chest.
69 is women’s least favorite position for receiving oral sex
We also wanted to investigate what positions are least favored by women receiving oral sex.
The results were far more diverse than for the previous question.
The 69 position came in first, with 26.4% of women selecting it as their least favorite position.
Closely following this was the standing position while being eaten out with 25.9% selecting this position.
Sitting on their partner’s face (19.5%), on their hands and knees (12.2%) and sitting down (7.5%) rounded out the top 5 least popular positions.
Only 3.6% of women choose lying down their back as their least favorite position.
1 in 12 women prefer receiving oral sex to vaginal sex.
We’ve already learned that 90.7% of women enjoy being eaten out. But, as a group, do women prefer oral sex it to regular vaginal sex?
No, for the most part.
Only 8.4% of women prefer receiving oral sex to vaginal sex.
However, 61.1% of women find being eaten out and vaginal intercourse to be equally enjoyable, with 30.5% of women preferring vaginal intercourse. When we remove those who find both to be equally enjoyable, 3.7 times more women prefer vaginal sex to being out.
Based on our findings, we can conclude that the average woman prefers vaginal sex, but that oral sex is a great option for providing her with almost as much enjoyment.
19 minutes and 40 seconds is the ideal cunnilingus duration (on average)
We hypothesized that knowing how long to perform oral sex on your partner would be useful to readers.
With this in mind, we asked every woman what their ideal oral sex session duration is, within a limit of 0-60 minutes.
Based on their answers, the average ideal oral sex duration is 19 minutes and 40 seconds. The median time is 16 minutes.
While this result may be useful, you can see from the scatter chart above, that the individual results were very diverse.
In other words, the question of the ideal cunnilingus duration is very personal to each individual woman.
The vast majority of women enjoy their partner using their fingers on/in their vagina during cunnilingus
We wanted to investigate if there were easy ways to enhance sexual pleasure from oral sex.
We hypothesized that a giving partner using their fingers to stimulate in and around their receiving partner’s vagina would be helpful.
This hypothesis proved to be overwhelmingly true when we asked the following question:
Do you enjoy it when your partner uses their fingers on/in your vagina during oral sex?
A full 92% of women answered “Yes” to this question.
The takeaway: If the giving partner is not already using their fingers when going down on their partner, then they should strongly consider doing so.
10.7% of women prefer their partner to have a beard when they receive oral sex
Another factor we suspected that might play a role in the enjoyment of receiving oral sex was the facial hair of the giver.
We assumed that a giver with stubble or a beard would be a major issue.
For over half of the women polled, facial or lack thereof doesn’t matter: 52.3% of women said it doesn’t matter whether their giving partner is clean-shaven, has stubble or a beard.
26.5% of women prefer their partner to be clean-shaven. But the most interesting finding is that 21.2% of women prefer their partner to have some kind of facial hair.
10.7% of women prefer their giving partner to have a beard and 10.5% preferring stubble on their partner.
We hypothesize that some women prefer a partner with facial hair as it adds additional stimulation. Validating this will require additional investigation.
48.6% of women enjoy receiving anilingus
We wanted to make sure that we also specifically investigated women’s preferences to oral-anal sex (aka anilingus or eating ass) to understand whether or not it is enjoyed by a similar percentage of women
Do you enjoy receiving anilingus?
48.6% of women answered “Yes”, with 51.4% of women choosing “No”.
This 50-50 split result underlines the importance of sexual communication with your partner. Rather than assuming they either enjoy or don’t enjoy it, you need to talk to your partner beforehand to learn their preferences.
10.3% of women like to receive oral sex on their period
Men and women have many different views on menstruation and sex during menstruation. We wanted to investigate whether menstruating would impact a woman’s decision to receive oral sex or not at all.
First, we eliminated all respondents who don’t currently menstruate, leaving us with 851 respondents. We did this as we wanted to measure our respondents’ perspectives from the current time and avoid potential memory biases.
From this group of respondents who currently menstruate, 10.3% replied that “Yes,” they do enjoy receiving oral sex during their period. 89.7% of women chose “No.”
While this finding would indicate that the vast majority of women don’t enjoy receiving oral sex during their period, we didn’t ask any follow-up questions to understand why. Perhaps this would be worth investigating in the future.
The answer to the question, “Do women like receiving oral sex?” has been conclusively answered. The vast majority do like it.
We’ve also investigated and discovered many preferences when it comes to enjoyable cunnilingus: positions, ideal duration, cunnilingus during menstruation, use of fingers during oral sex, facial hair preferences and views on anilingus.
The results of this study generalize women’s preferences towards oral sex. However, we advise that you talk to your partner to learn her unique preferences rather than assuming these generalized results apply individually to her.
We began this survey by collecting basic demographic information. Those who had never received vaginal-oral sex were disqualified, as were non-female respondents. All respondents were over the age of 18. All respondents indicated that they have a vagina with no respondents indicating otherwise. After this filtering process, we were left with a total of 1,058 respondents:
- 867 women identifying as heterosexual
- 123 women identifying as bisexual
- 12 women identifying as homosexual
- 19 women who specified alternative sexuality to heterosexual/homosexual/bisexual
- 37 women who declined to provide their sexuality
These remaining participants were asked a variety of questions to assess their sentiments and preferences on the topic of receiving vaginal-oral sex aka cunnilingus.
Our survey relied on participants’ anonymous recollections and preferences. While they were encouraged to tell the truth and accurately represent what they had experienced, the data is nevertheless self-reported and there is the possibility of some inaccuracy.